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Grabber – Learn to love yourself.
2. How this issue/ problem manifests and affects people – Paul Rozin – one of the pioneers of the positive psychology movement along with Martin Seligman and known expert in disgust. He studied negative phenomenon – particularly judgements and came up with the idea of a negativity bias. We basically, default to more of a negative conclusion when presented with the same data. This is why you remember the one piece of tough feedback more than the positive ones and why you’ll remember the more emotionally challenging news stories than the positive ones. This is unsurprising considering our education systems. One of my favourite TED talks of all time is Ken Robinson’s – why schools kill creativity and he beautifully demonstrates how our education systems are set-up to find fault and problems – as they have been founded during the scientific era. Either way – out of this comes loss aversion, recall etc. So – the idea of a negativity bias has some traction. Do I buy into it? Yes – more often than not in my own experience too. I tend to automatically focus on the things I didn’t do right (webinar yesterday) and the things that aren’t going according to my expectation ( flat sale) which sucks my energy and puts me in victim/blaming mode. And here’s the issue – if we allow this bias to go unchecked it drains us pretty quickly and we can feel depleted by a depressed mood. Major link to depression and poor health and energy – and you don’t need to wait be clinically depressed.
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4. How to tackle the issue/ problem – 3 A’s awareness, Acceptance & Action. Realise that when we’re stressed particularly – our mind is like a Velcro for bad experiences. One thing I like to think of is it’s never as great as you think or as bad as you think – when it comes to a situation – it’s somewhere in between. Start defining what self-love is. And consider the different ways you can give it to yourself. How would love respond say in: Thought, word & deed. I like to do the 5 things I’m grateful for, reminding myself that I’m doing the best I can do and I’m allowed to make mistakes. That I’m the one who is demanding I’m perfect – no one else. I then remind myself of the good stuff – that I’m creative, resourceful, kind, caring and funny (at least my girlfriend thinks so) and that the world is lucky to have me. I’m trying to spread love as much as I can. Go hit a squash-court, have a call with my close friends and get support and ask my girlfriend why she loves me. And maybe reach out to others to check-in. Anything to re-balance the ship as it could be a little out of whack. The more good stuff we put in the better we treat ourselves and the more energized and positive we feel.
5. Application – Put some you time in the diary and do something you love. Put a support buddy in place to give each other help.
6. Conclusion – where to find out more:
We’ll drop a blog on this with some tips and resources to check out.
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