Have you ever wondered why we often save our deepest expressions of love until after someone is gone? In this tender reflection, I explore the bittersweet human tendency to eulogize in death more than we celebrate in life.
We journey through three relationship patterns that shape our emotional landscape—the unreciprocated friendship where we give more than we receive, the "almost tribe" connections that begin with perfect alignment only to reveal fundamental differences, and those seasonal presences who enter our lives briefly but meaningfully. Each relationship type teaches us something profound about love, loss, and the psychology behind how we process both.
When news of someone's transition reaches us, our brains engage in a fascinating protective mechanism—filtering memories to hold onto curves rather than sharp edges. This isn't denial; it's our mind seeking peace amid grief. As I share, "Grief isn't a receipt, it is not about proof, it's about impact." Your connection to someone doesn't require proximity to validate your mourning.
The phrase "give me my flowers now" resonates throughout this episode as both plea and permission. Sometimes we're waiting for bouquets from people who don't even know we're hungry for one. And if recognition seems eternally forthcoming, perhaps the most radical act is buying your own flowers—seeing, celebrating, and validating yourself without external confirmation.
Life is layered, people are complex, and presence itself is a gift. The flowers we give today may become the memories others hold tomorrow. I invite you to consider: Who are you not giving flowers to, and what's stopping you? Join me in this heart space moment as we explore the power of presence and timely appreciation. Follow Mindfully with Tumishe on social media and share your thoughts on this episode through the link in the description.
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