In this week's episode, I name the messy middle of a relationship reset and explain why falling into an old fight can be evidence of growth instead of failure. I'm sharing a simple three-step framework to help us respond differently, protect connection, and build a stronger couple identity through repair.
• reframing “nothing’s changing” as an opportunity to do it differently
• treating the return of conflict as the work rather than a setback
• shifting from reacting to taking responsibility without shame or blame
• using the power question: how do I want to respond differently
• moving from winning the argument to protecting the connection
• using the power question: how do I protect us right now
• focusing on who we are becoming as a couple instead of “is this working”
• modelling rupture and repair so kids learn healthy relationship skills
• breaking generational dysfunction and trauma through consistent repair
Make sure you're sending these episodes to your partner and start having these conversations together. I would love to hear about your experiences with the relationship reset.
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