When tragedy strikes through domestic violence, the ripple effects extend far beyond the immediate victim. In this raw and powerful conversation, Alana Maria opens up about the life-altering moment she received news of her sister Yolanda's murder at the hands of her husband.
"I felt everything and nothing at all, all at the same time," Alana shares, describing her three-and-a-half-hour drive home after receiving the devastating call while on a film set. This heartbreaking account illuminates how domestic violence creates what she calls a "tsunami" of trauma—affecting not just the victim but entire families and communities.
Alana's 14-year-old nephew witnessed the horrific event, adding profound trauma to his grief. Her mother struggles daily with the loss of her daughter. The extended family works to maintain connections while navigating uncomfortable new dynamics with the perpetrator's relatives. Through it all, Alana emphasizes how togetherness and professional therapy have become essential coping mechanisms: "All of us are in therapy. That is the healthiest thing that we could have ever done."
The conversation takes a powerful turn as Alana discusses breaking the silence around domestic violence, especially in communities where family matters traditionally remain private. "Change some of our language," she advises, noting how communities can place resources in churches, gyms, and gathering spaces to reach those suffering in silence.
Despite her grief, Alana continues pursuing her creative passions—writing, acting, singing, entrepreneurship—guided by her powerful motto: "I refuse to give the grave any of my potential." She carries her sister's ashes in a necklace on film sets, transforming profound loss into motivation and purpose.
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