Motherhood is no easy feat.
In fact, it's probably the furthest thing from easy.
As moms, sometimes we just need someone to validate the way that we're feeling. We don't expect them to fix the problem, and sometimes there's not even a clear solution anyways. But what we do need is for someone to be there for us simply by saying, "It IS hard, mama."
As humans, when we share our problems, struggles, or anxieties with the people we love, we are often looking for nothing more than validation. And we can provide this in return as well. One of my favorite books is "I Hear You" by Michael Sorensen and it teaches you that you can validate someone even without agreeing with them. It is truly a superpower when it comes to strengthening connections with other humans and building relationships. And it is a necessary piece of motherhood.
Another message that comes to mind is one I heard from Ed Mylett - that sometimes people just need us to sit in their pain with them. We aren't responsible for making the pain go away, and often doing so is unintentionally selfish on our part. But instead, we just need to sit there with them, or have someone sit with us.
Of course, we constantly want to evaluate our personal relationships and make sure there is a balance of give and take.
Receiving validation in motherhood is crucial. If you don't have a community of women to validate your experience or sit in the "hard" with you, please find that here with Moms Working Overtime.
You're incredible. You're doing amazing. And don't give up, okay?
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