Ryan and Heidi discuss the importance of us as parents being able to use the tools of co-regulation and objective noticing to teach self-regulation to our children.
- We all what our children to have a competitive edge in life- to be emotionally intelligent, resilient, and confident about taking on any challenge in life
- In the US culture, we have noticed how many men are raised to suppress their emotions as they are growing up
- Downplaying our children's physical sensations that are leading to big emotions teaches our kids to question, ignore, and mistrust their own internal experience
- Diminishing the signal of pain teaches our children that they are bad or wrong for feeling
- The goal is to allow ourselves to feel fully in one moment and to let go in the next
- The old model vs. the new model of parenting a child through their own discomfort
- What is co-regulation? Co-regulation involves one person staying present for another through a challenging experience such that the stressed individual experiences greater self-awareness
- How to practice the 3 A's: Attention, Acceptance, Allowance
- Using objective noticing to help our children identify the sensations they are experiencing without the "thought story they may want to attach to the experience
Connect with us:
Website: CompeteHeartFirst.com
Follow Us on IG: @mentalstrengthcoach
