This is Part 1 of Understanding Narcissism between Allegra Foxlie, a trauma-informed bodyworker, and Elizabeth Shaw, the author of "A Narcissist Handbook" and many other books on narcissism, to discuss the impacts of emotional abuse and narcissistic behaviour on mental and physical well-being.
This is a must for anyone who believes they or their friends are being abused.
Elizabeth Shaw explains the nature of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and differentiates it from general narcissistic traits, emphasizing that most abusers exhibit narcissistic behaviors due to their lack of empathy and exploitative tendencies.
The discussion explores the different types of narcissistic abuse, including overt, covert, and emotional abuse, and how these behaviours create confusion and self-doubt in victims. Elizabeth explains the concept of 'hoovering,' where narcissists attempt to suck victims back into abusive relationships. The conversation also highlights how narcissists treat children as accessories and manipulate them for their own benefit, causing harm and confusion.
Elizabeth emphasizes the importance of setting clear boundaries with narcissists, recognizing their patterns, and maintaining emotional, psychological, and physical distance when possible. She underscores that true narcissists don't change their behaviours fundamentally, even though some might seek therapy or support. The conversation also touches on how narcissistic individuals operate within families and court systems, often manipulating the narrative to appear as the victim.
Allegra and Elizabeth plan to continue their discussion in a future episode to further explore topics such as safely exiting narcissistic relationships, recognizing narcissistic behaviour, and understanding the long-term impacts of such relationships and importantly healing from them.
Elizabeth's books:
A Narcissists Handbook, https://amzn.eu/d/fRbRBcH
15 Rules to deal with Narcissistic People https://amzn.eu/d/7kvk4zf
Boundaries with Narcissists https://amzn.eu/d/5EeSL78
To contact Elizabeth: coachelizabethshaw
As an FYI all the clients discussed in this episode remain anonymous and consented to their individual stories being discussed.
Buy Allegra's book, HTR: Hormone Tension Release on Amazon: https://amzn.eu/d/1KiWiai
Follow Allegra's Instagram account: @allegrafoxlie
Book a session with Allegra by visiting her website: www.thefoxlieplan.com
