Lindsay Abernathy shares her powerful journey through domestic abuse and offers practical guidance for survivors trying to rebuild their lives after toxic relationships.
• Abuse can hide behind the appearance of a perfect life with fancy houses and cars
• Many victims don't identify their situation as abuse because it doesn't match stereotypical portrayals
• Abusers collect vulnerabilities early in relationships to weaponize them later
• Warning signs include love bombing followed by devaluation, criticism, and control
• Financial abuse keeps many victims trapped with no access to money or resources
• Trauma creates poor decision-making abilities, increasing the difficulty of leaving
• Documentation is crucial both during the relationship and after leaving
• The most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when attempting to leave
• Safety planning includes securing documents, building a support network, and having an exit strategy
• Never confront an abuser in person when leaving - get safe first, then communicate
• Strong boundaries are essential after leaving, especially when co-parenting
• Self-worth can't be stolen - rebuilding after abuse means reclaiming what was always yours
For resources and support, check out TheHotline.org, Aimeesays, or join Lindsay's community at BitchIsABadWord podcast. Also, check out her apparel at 2WeeksNotice.com
