In today's message, we explored the universal nature of conflict and the Christian call to handle it with love and wisdom. Conflict is an inevitable part of life, present from the earliest chapters of Genesis and throughout human history. Jesus taught that the hallmark of His followers is their love for one another, even amidst disagreements. This love is not demonstrated through outward symbols like bumper stickers or T-shirts but through genuine, loving interactions, especially during conflicts.
We began by examining the importance of being slow to anger, as highlighted in Proverbs. This wisdom allows us to overlook minor offenses and prevent unnecessary conflicts. We also discussed the necessity of self-reflection, acknowledging our part in conflicts, and seeking to amend our wrongs before addressing others' faults. This week, we delved into Jesus' process for resolving conflicts, as outlined in Matthew 18. This process emphasizes the importance of choosing the right path in conflict resolution—whether to win the argument or to win the person.
The story of Air Canada and their customer service decisions served as a metaphor for the paths we choose in conflict. Just as Air Canada's choice to prioritize cost-cutting over customer service led to significant losses, our choice in handling conflicts can lead to either broken relationships or restored ones. Jesus' method involves addressing issues privately first, then with a small group, and finally, if necessary, involving the church. This approach is not about policing but about healing, akin to a physician addressing sickness in the body.
Ultimately, the goal is to win people, not fights. This requires humility, patience, and a commitment to love others as Jesus loves us. It involves being willing to engage in difficult conversations, seeking reconciliation, and prioritizing relationships over being right. As we navigate conflicts, we must decide whether we want to win arguments or win people, keeping in mind that our actions reflect our faith to the world.
