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There is a particular tension that shows up when someone is trying to manage a moment, a schedule, or an entire group. Maybe it is the person urging everyone to hurry up, maybe it is the one correcting the plan, or maybe it is the quiet frustration building inside when things are not going the way they pictured. This episode looks at what is really happening beneath that urge to take charge.

Join Anna and Tim as they unpack why controlling people exhausts us, why so many of us slip into control without realizing it, and how much of it traces back to fear, safety, and old wounds that still echo. They talk through the moments when control feels like competence, when order becomes oxygen, and when trying to manage everyone else becomes a quiet prison. With stories from travel mishaps, work dynamics, and their own relationship, they shine light on how control shows up and what it costs.

This Episode Covers:

• The trip planner energy that takes over vacations and why it sparks so much tension.
• The way predictability calms the nervous system when life feels chaotic.
• How control becomes a shield for people who grew up with volatility or inconsistency.
• The difference between emotional immaturity and fear-based reactions.
• Why some controlling behaviors are really attempts to avoid disappointment or feeling unimportant.
• How friends, partners, and kids respond by going quiet, backing away, or rebelling.
• The illusion of control and what happens when life throws curveballs.
• Tools for shifting from control to influence, including naming the real fear and separating control from preference.

Until next time, here's to deeper connections and personal growth.
Mad love!

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