In this episode, Emily and her mom, Kay, discuss the experiences and perspectives of being both an adoptee and an adoptive mother. They explore topics such as meeting birth parents, the importance of knowing one's roots, the fear of rejection, and the impact of adoption on identity. They also discuss the role of adoptive parents in supporting their children's desire to connect with their birth parents. Overall, the conversation highlights the complexities and emotions involved in adoption. In this conversation, Emily and Kay discuss various aspects of adoption from the perspective of an adoptive mother and an adoptee. They touch on topics such as seeking birth parents' approval, fears of being taken away, the challenges of being an adoptive mom, the importance of openness and honesty, and the need for support and understanding. Kay shares her experience of feeling like a failure for not being able to conceive and the decision to adopt. They also discuss the complexities of identity and the impact of adoption on relationships and commitment. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of communication, support, and acceptance in the adoption journey.
Show Notes:
- The desire to meet birth parents and seek closure is common among adoptees, and adoptive parents should support and encourage this process.
- Adoptees may struggle with feelings of rejection and emptiness, even if they have a strong sense of belonging within their adoptive family.
- The impact of adoption on identity varies for each individual, and it is important to respect and validate their unique experiences.
- Open and honest communication about adoption within the family is crucial, and secrets or withheld information can lead to difficulties later in life.
- The decision to meet birth parents should be approached with realistic expectations and an understanding that the relationship may not be what one imagines. Seeking birth parents' approval is a common feeling among adoptive parents.
- Fears of being taken away by birth parents can exist for adoptive children.
- Being an adoptive mom can come with challenges, such as feeling like a failure for not being able to conceive.
- Openness and honesty are crucial in adoptive families.
- Support and understanding are essential for both adoptive parents and adoptees.
- Adoption can impact identity and relationships, including the commitment to oneself and others.
