Have you ever wondered why some clients seem unmoved by readings that feel magical to you, while others burst into tears over messages that seem ordinary? Welcome to one of mediumship's greatest challenges: the emotional disconnect between medium and sitter.
The perfect reading creates magical alignment—your energy matches your client's, evidence flows effortlessly, and validation comes readily. These "slam dunk" sessions leave both parties feeling transformed and connected. But what happens when there's a mismatch? When you deliver what feels like extraordinary evidence only to face a poker-faced client? Or when you relay seemingly routine information that unexpectedly moves someone to tears?
This disconnection represents a crucial growth point for developing mediums. It reveals how ego creates expectations about how readings "should" feel and how clients "should" respond. The truth? You don't work for the client—you work for spirit. While clients pay the bill, your responsibility lies in delivering messages with integrity, regardless of how they're received.
Client reactions vary wildly based on personality, expectations, grief processing, and countless factors beyond your control. Some maintain stoic expressions while being deeply moved; others have read that they shouldn't give too much feedback. What feels like rejection often isn't—many seemingly unimpressed clients return year after year, finding tremendous value in your work despite their muted reactions.
Perhaps most profound is the realization that spirit often delivers life-changing messages without fanfare. What feels like mundane information to you might be precisely what your sitter needed to hear. You never know which piece of evidence will transform someone's grief or provide the closure they've sought for years.
Next time you experience this emotional mismatch, sit with it compassionately. Acknowledge your feelings without judgment, give yourself the validation you seek, and remember: if you're showing up with an open heart and delivering messages with integrity, you're succeeding as a medium—regardless of the reaction across from you.
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