In this episode of "When I Stop Fighting the Podcast," host Daryl Dittmer sits down with his wife, Kristina, for a deeply personal and candid conversation about growth, self-discovery, and the evolution of their relationship. They reflect on how sharing stories—through writing and dialogue—can unearth deeper layers of understanding, even after decades together. Kristina describes how reading Daryl’s book allowed her to see new facets of his character, illustrating the value of vulnerability and honest self-examination within long-term partnerships.
The discussion delves into their individual journeys of self-improvement and introspection. Kristina recounts her relentless drive from childhood through her corporate career, her experience as a mother, and the eventual realization that true fulfillment required slowing down and looking inward. Both Daryl and Kristina share how facing unresolved emotions and past experiences—rather than avoiding them—became a turning point for healing. They highlight the importance of working on oneself individually to strengthen the relationship as a whole, and acknowledge the ongoing, non-linear nature of personal growth.
Kristina’s journey into the business of stock, option, and futures trading emerges as a metaphor and practical tool for self-exploration in Kristina’s recent life. She describes how the challenges of trading reveal emotional patterns and force her to confront impatience, control, and other ingrained tendencies. This journey prompts her to engage with spiritual practices, journaling, and support groups, further deepening her self-awareness. The couple also explores their evolving views on faith, control, and the role of a higher power, emphasizing openness to change and the liberation found in embracing uncertainty and humility.
In closing, Kristina offers advice for listeners on the value of facing what we tend to avoid, and taking the first steps toward inner work, despite the discomfort it may bring. Both she and Daryl advocate for curiosity, ongoing learning, and releasing judgment—of oneself and others. They recommend resources that have aided their journeys and underscore the transformative power of honest conversations, both with loved ones and within ourselves, as the key to living a more authentic, loving, and fulfilling life.
