Julie Legg and Jel Legg discuss ADHD and dating – how ADHD traits can impact some of our dating skills and dating experiences, managing expectations, and being authentic.
They discuss common challenges, such as emotional dysregulation, masking, and difficulties with active listening, while offering strategies for success, including authenticity, trusting gut instincts, and open communication. Emphasizing the importance of enjoying the process rather than obsessing over outcomes, they encourage listeners to view dating as both a social and personal growth experience, whether or not they find romantic success.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- ADHD Traits and Dating: ADHD traits like impulsiveness, over-talking, and the search for dopamine significantly influence dating experiences, often leading to quick emotional connections or disconnections. Quick emotional investments in potential partners, can be overwhelming for some while decisions to end dates or relationships rapidly when dopamine levels drop may occur.
- Challenges in Dating: Over-talking or not listening can hinder forming deeper connections. Masking ADHD traits to impress someone may lead to challenges later in a relationship. Emotional dysregulation or dropping the mask too soon can surprise or confuse potential partners.
- Strategies for Success: Be honest and authentic from the start to foster genuine connections. Recognize and trust gut instincts when determining compatibility. Avoid obsessing over expectations or milestones and focus on enjoying the experience.
- Compatibility Considerations: Dating someone with ADHD may create a shared understanding but is not essential for success. Open communication and active listening are key, regardless of neurodivergence.
- Perspective on Dating: Approach dating with an open mind and treat it as a social experience rather than solely a romantic pursuit. Be prepared to end dates or relationships that don’t feel right, while maintaining a positive outlook.
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