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Season 2 Episode 12: Sex, Sleepovers, and Spending: The Surprising Rules of Open Relationships
Continuing our exploration of ethical non-monogamy, Dr. Nari and Dr. Jenna dive into the nuanced world of boundaries and rules that make these relationships work. Following Dr. Ethan Schwab's interview on different forms of non-monogamous relationships, this episode uncovers the practical aspects of how couples navigate these complex arrangements.
We shatter the common misconception that "anything goes" in open relationships. Drawing from our clinical experience, we share how couples establish and maintain boundaries around physical spaces, emotional connections, time management, and finances. From prohibiting outside encounters in the shared home to negotiating overnight stays with secondary partners, these boundaries reflect efforts to protect the primary relationship while creating space for additional connections.
Geographic and cultural context significantly impacts how these relationships function. While ethical non-monogamy might be commonplace in progressive cities like Seattle, navigating these arrangements in more conservative regions like Tallahassee presents unique challenges. The small-town dynamic means greater risk of social circles overlapping, making privacy and disclosure boundaries particularly important.
What makes this conversation especially valuable is the honesty about their own learning journey. We acknowledge having more questions than answers about ethical non-monogamy, reflecting the evolving nature of relationship structures in contemporary society. Our approach emphasizes self-awareness, communication, and ongoing consent as foundations for any relationship style.
Whether you're curious about ethical non-monogamy, actively practicing it, or simply interested in improving communication in your monogamous relationship, this episode offers valuable insights into setting boundaries and expressing needs. Have questions or want to continue the conversation? Reach out through Instagram @thecoupledpodcast or use the text link in our show notes.
Dr. Jenna and Dr. Nari are the Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists behind the Coupled Podcast. They both have private practices where they work with individuals, couples, and families in Florida. The two are ready to shake up the world of couples therapy and want to extend resources beyond the couples they see in their private practices.
If you like this episode and want to know more about taking the next step to improve your communication, connection, and intimacy, head over to our websites to learn more about our Staying Coupled and Getting Coupled courses. These online courses give you the flexibility to improve your relationship from the comfort and convenience of your home. The Staying Coupled course is for couples who want to do the work to connect, communicate, and have the healthiest relationship possible. The Getting Coupled course is for premarital couples wanting to learn the essentials for a successful marriage. Topics in both courses include the main issues couples face:
For more information, visit drjennascott.com/courses or drnarijeter.com/courses
Disclaimer: This podcast is not a substitute for therapy. If you’re struggling, we encourage you to seek support from a licensed therapist in your state. Our relationship suggestions and content may not be applicable or advised for relationships with intimate partner violence (IPV). If you need resources, contact the Na
