"When you die, you're never going to wish you worked more." These words from Tori Jenae's grandfather became a guiding light through her darkest moments. As a trauma-informed confidence coach who has walked through fire – from childhood trauma to profound loss, from adrenal failure to divorce – Tori brings hard-earned wisdom to women caught in cycles of burnout and overwhelm.
The modern woman's burnout crisis isn't just about being busy. Women today are primary breadwinners, caregivers, emotional laborers, and household managers – all while our society still operates on outdated schemas about who should handle what. We've only had access to our own bank accounts since 1974, yet we're expected to excel in every domain without letting anything drop. The result? An epidemic of exhaustion that manifests as mood swings, disrupted sleep, digestive issues, and a pervasive feeling of hopelessness.
For Tori, burnout became life-threatening when her extremely long workweeks and perfectionism led to Addison's disease – her adrenal glands simply quit functioning. Her healing journey revealed that burnout stems from deeper patterns: people-pleasing, boundary challenges, and finding worth in achievement rather than existence. The path forward begins with what she calls the ABCs: Awareness something needs to change, examining the Beliefs driving our behavior, and Calming our nervous systems through practices that regulate our bodies' stress responses.
When we heal and evolve, our relationships often face growing pains too. Tori shares how her own marriage ended when her personal growth created an energetic imbalance the relationship couldn't bridge. Yet she emphasizes that couples who choose to "fall in love with new versions of each other over and over" can transform together rather than grow apart.
Whether you're running on empty or supporting someone who is, this episode offers both practical tools and soul-deep permission to put yourself back on your own priority list. Connect with Tori at www.torijenae.com or @ToriJenae on Instagram to continue your journey from burnout to breakthrough.
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