Our celebration of Love Month continues with a conversation about keeping the spark sparking in your marriage! With Tom laid up at home, the audio may sound a bit different. Tom is on a zoom call with Scott in the studio.
Keeping The Romance Alive
Solomon 2:15
Catch the foxes for us, The little foxes that spoil and ruin the vineyards [of love], While our vineyards are in blossom.”
Date your mate
- How often?
- Try revisiting dates you did in history
- 24 hour get aways
From Focus on the Family
- Go to the gym together.
- Walk with your spouse three to five times a week.
- Buy new clothes, and throw out those ugly sleep shirts/pajamas.
- Change habits. Helps you out of a rut and routine
Communication (Focus on the Family)
- Do so in non-threatening, non-judgmental ways.
- Let’s change how we treat each other. Let’s call each other during the day at work.
- Let’s walk together each evening.”
- Avoid using “you” statements. Use “I feel” or “I need” instead. Try writing a letter as an alternative to face to face communication, especially if you feel he or she will react negatively
Sowing Importance
- Specifically speak your mate’s love language
- Doing goods things doesn’t necessarily require spending a lot of money.
- Simple things, like picking up after yourself.
- Giving a FREE back rub,
- preparing dinner,
- writing an appreciative note,
Physical Intimacy (Dr. Gottman)
Caution: This content may not be suitable for younger readers
- Change your pattern of initiating sex. ...
- Hold hands more often.
- Allow anticipation to build toward love making
- Separate sexual intimacy from routine.
- Carve out time to spend with your partner. ...
- Focus on affectionate touch. ...
- Practice being more emotionally vulnerable during sex.
- Experiment with new ways to bring pleasure to each other. Look at sex as an opportunity to get to know your partner better over time.
- Vary the position or foreplay - changes routine
- Make Sex a priority before TV.
- Relax first
- The good news is that allowing your partner to influence you can reignite the spark you once enjoyed.
Dr. Gottman reminds us that friendship is the glue that can hold a marriage together
To reach Tom Russell, go to https://www.heritagechristiancounselingofmansfield.com.
