The path to marital unity isn't about compromise or meeting halfway—it's about something far more powerful. Frank and Darcie Montgomery tackle the fundamental question of how two people with different backgrounds, perspectives, and personalities truly become one.
At the heart of their discussion is a profound insight: "It takes three to make two become one." This counterintuitive truth points to the essential role faith plays in creating genuine unity between spouses. When God becomes the centerpiece of a marriage, individual differences stop being obstacles and start becoming complementary strengths. The Montgomerys share from their own journey how they've moved from operating independently to embracing true oneness in every aspect of life.
Financial unity emerges as a critical testing ground for marital oneness. Darcie challenges the popular notion of separate accounts and divided responsibilities, insisting that complete transparency and shared financial decision-making are non-negotiable for couples serious about unity. "That's not unity, that's just malarkey," she explains when describing marriages where finances remain separated. This conversation expands to encompass trust, child-rearing approaches, and daily transparency.
Frank vulnerably shares his transformation from compartmentalizing "my life" to embracing "our life" in everything from work relationships to daily activities. Their most revolutionary concept might be the "100-100 marriage" that replaces the common "50-50" model. This approach has each spouse waking each day asking, "What can I do to make my partner's life better today?" rather than focusing on their own needs—creating a powerful cycle of mutual service and deeper understanding.
Ready to experience a new level of oneness in your marriage? Listen now and discover practical ways to strengthen your relationship through unity of purpose, finances, parenting approaches, and daily living—all centered in shared faith. This episode kicks off a special series on Darcie’s top five keys to marital success that you won't want to miss.
