Have you ever wondered where the line between tough love and abuse truly lies? That blurry boundary shaped my childhood in profound ways, leaving scars that took decades to understand.
Growing up in the 1980s with my father after my parents split, I experienced what was then considered "character building" but would today be recognized as neglect and emotional abuse. I'll never forget the day my thumb got caught in a car door, turning purple-black while I was told to stop crying and toughen up. No medical care, just shame for expressing pain. This moment, buried in my memories until recently, exemplifies how children can be failed by the very adults meant to protect them.
My father's determination to "beat the girl out of me" went beyond physical toughness. I was ridiculed for embracing anything feminine, used as a demonstration dummy in his karate school, and left to navigate puberty alone with overwhelming shame. These experiences created a hyper-independent person who struggled to trust others and lived primarily in masculine energy.
The journey back to my authentic self has been about reclaiming femininity without abandoning strength. I've learned to forgive my parents while acknowledging the harm done. Now, I pamper myself radically, knowing I deserve the nurturing. This is my invitation to you: Where do you find the line between being tough and being gentle with yourself? Can you dance comfortably between these qualities, embracing both rather than choosing one?
Your experiences shape you, but they don't have to define you. Connect with me through the show notes if this resonates—I'd love to continue this conversation about building an unbreakable mind and body while honoring all aspects of who you are.
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Disclaimer: This show is for education and entertainment purposes only. This is not intended as a replacement for therapy. Please seek out the help of a professional to assist you with your specific situation.
