Welcome to the third episode of Rewild the Village, a podcast for rethinking parenting, reclaiming connection, and rebuilding the village we all long for.
In this final episode from It’s Okay Not to Share by Heather Shumaker, we explore two of the most challenging and liberating rules:
• Rule 9: It’s Okay Not to Share
• Rule 10: Let Her Hog That Toy All Day
We’ll talk about why sharing on demand can undermine trust, how true generosity develops naturally over time, and why giving our children long turns supports both emotional safety and executive function.
You’ll also hear personal stories, research insights, and practical tools for navigating turn-taking, waiting, and social pressure, both in your home and on the playground.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
• 00:00, Opening Song
• 02:16, Welcome
• 04:13, Rule 9: It’s Okay Not to Share
• 09:27, What children really learn when forced to share
• 11:05, Delayed gratification and true generosity
• 14:03, Tools for peaceful turn-taking
• 16:27, Rule 10: Let Her Hog That Toy All Day
• 17:11, Long turns and nervous system regulation
• 18:56, Personal playground stories
• 21:52, Surprise shout-out to…
• 23:18, Bonus meditation, The Clearing Within on Patreon
• 24:23, Closing song
"Protecting my child’s play is more important than protecting my image."
Tag @diana.sewsanker with your reflections.
Resources & Links:
• Book: It’s Okay Not to Share: And Other Renegade Rules for Raising Competent and Compassionate Kids by Heather Shumaker
• Website: sewsanker.co.uk
• Instagram: @diana.sewsanker
• Patreon: patreon.com/c/Rewildthevillage
Credits:
• Podcast cover photo by @stephanievdwiel
• Music by Dinaram, http://Dinaram.pro
• Shout-out this week to: Mama bear and her creations
Transcript & Extras:
I’ve decided to close my Patreon and move updates to a new Telegram channel. It feels like the right step for this season, and I’d love for you to join me there: t.me/rewildthevillage
