The R.E.P.A.I.R Method: Strengthening Catholic Marriages
This video explains how a simple gesture like lighting a candle can help save and strengthen a marriage, especially within the Catholic faith. The speaker introduces the R.E.P.A.I.R. method, a six-step faith-filled framework designed to help couples reflect, take responsibility, pray, validate feelings, reconnect, and reconcile effectively after conflicts. Through detailed examples of fictional couples, the speaker demonstrates the practical application of these steps and emphasizes the importance of tangible gestures and spiritual practices in fostering emotional safety and unity. This method aims not only at resolving conflicts but also at deepening the marital bond by living out the sacrament of marriage.
00:00 The Power of a Simple Gesture
00:48 Introducing the R.E.P.A.I.R Framework
01:43 Attachment and Repair in Relationships
02:16 Examples of Effective and Ineffective Repairs
04:30 The Role of a Candle in Reconciliation
05:51 The Pitfalls of 'Offering It Up'
07:09 Understanding Attachment Wounds
08:09 The R.E.P.A.I.R Method Steps
08:22 Reflect and Regulate
09:01 Express Responsibility
11:14 Presence and Prayer
12:49 Acknowledge Feelings
15:10 Initiate Connection
17:54 Rebuild and Reconcile
19:50 Conclusion and Resources
Disclaimer:
This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional counseling, spiritual direction, or medical advice. While I’m a licensed Catholic therapist, I am not your therapist—and listening to this podcast does not create a therapeutic relationship.If you’re experiencing significant distress, please reach out to a licensed mental health provider in your area, your parish priest, or a trusted support resource. If you're in crisis, contact 988 or your local emergency services.The Catholic Counseling Institute exists to support women with resources that integrate faith and psychological insight. We’re here to walk with you, but we are not a crisis line or emergency care provider.
