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If you find yourself constantly comparing yourself to others, today’s podcast is one you do not want to miss out on. Jenny offers a list of prompts (included below) on how to narrow down why you compare yourself to others and how to climb out of that hole. By incorporating the AFFAIR method, start growing away from the negative comparison and towards building your confidence. Feel deserving and worthy of reaching your goals after killing the comparison that’s been holding you down!

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 How does comparing myself to this person make me feel? —> really narrow this down to the exact 1 or 2 emotions you experience.

• What about this person has me triggered? Is it something they’ve done? Is it how they look/speak/behave/etc.? Do they have something I want?
• How does this relate to what I think I want for my life (my goals) that I’m having trouble with? Or is it something that I don’t think I want; i.e. do they do the opposite of what I think is right?
• What is my goal?  What do I want? How do I feel about it? 
• How much confidence do I have in myself to achieve my goal and get what I want? (1-10)
• Do I feel worthy of achieving this goal? Why or why not?
• How safe does it feel to achieve this goal? (1-10)
• Do I feel pushback from anyone or anything, including myself when I think about achieving my goal and getting what I want? If so, think about why and where that might come from.
• Do I feel like I can trust myself to reach my goal? (1-10)
• How much belief do I have in myself to get what I want? (1-10)
• Do I feel like I deserve to get what I want? Why or why not? Do you remember another time in your life where someone made you feel like you didn’t deserve something?
• Am I giving myself permission to work on achieving my goal? How much am I allowing myself to ACTUALLY do what I need to do to get what I want?
• On the questions you ranked between a 1-10, ask yourself why you are anything but a 9 or 10 - what holds you back from being a 9 or a 10?

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