- Yes! You are in! I love mic drops. And I love sharing some of the best ones. This one goes out to anyone striving to make marriage work. Here you go...
- Thank you Pastor Rick Warren. If one of the best selling authors and pastor of over 40 years can say that, then all of you will have marriage issues at some point. As I've said probably too many times, if you haven't had marriage issues you haven't been married long enough. It's just a matter of time before the storms arrive.
- What's missing in too many relationships today is commitment. It's the key difference between those living together and those that took an oath in front of God and perhaps family and friends. Even those that do a formal wedding with oaths of commitment seems to let it fade after 7 years or so.
- If so inspired, and you are looking for more dirt, you can catch my whole audio book, "Myth of a Perfect Marriage" published in the Summer of 2020. Simply dig back into this podcast to find it. Challenging questions at the end of each chapter for you and your spouse and hopefully couples group. If you don't have a couples group, it's time. You are kidding yourself going through these challenges alone. It helps to have other couples to help hold you both accountable. Find the Christian Church nearest you that has a dedicated married couples small group program.
- Work! You see that's one of the key challenges for most couples. Work?! Yes, work. Too many of fall into the lie that your soul mate is out there and this must not be it because you have issues. Fatal flaw. The soul mate myth. Covered this before, let's cover it again. For those that watch 90 Day Fiance, for the record, I'm not a fan but my wife is...shhhhhhh. Part of the draw is the excitement of new romance. Most of you get that. Here's the challenge, new romance becomes old romance. Soul mate becomes pain in the ass. Then those two are going to have to make a choice. Are we going to work at this? Baby? Most don't and that's why over 50% of you are divorced or will be divorced. Somebody was Lazy. No commitment. Somebody stopped trying. Somebody stopped choosing 'Commitment'.
- In conclusion, to the previous episode and Beach Reflections. Don't stop dating your spouse. Don't stop trying and trust me and Pastor Rick, there will be times you want to stop trying. It happens to all of us...at least those with the courage to confess it. And if you think you are all high and mighty and never got angry or thought about quitting, give it time, you will be challenged. How do I know that? Rom 3:23. Avid listener knew I had to work that in. We are all flawed. Even when you put to people together that are so in love...they are still two flawed people. In time, flaws, create friction. And just because you have flaws doesn't mean you get to stop trying, well you can stop and watch another relationship burn to the ground. Or you can choose to love and work on your flaws such as addiction or finances or _____________.
- Oh lastly, if you would like to hear more of that listen and series, that is one of my favorite teachers, Pastor Rick Warren of Daily Hope. That one is entitled "How to Connect with People - Part 3", published on the 22nd of August, 2023.
- Now go, honor your commitments, be a person of integrity, honor your God by honoring your oath to your spouse that you made in front of Him. Much love, keep going, let commitment be part of your legacy.
