Podcast content and song lyrics by Tami Atman. Podcast production by LW Nolie. Music and vocals by Lisa Yves.
Stonewalling is a term that was developed by psychologist Dr John Gottman, who specializes in relationship research and therapy. Stonewalling is when a person withdraws from a conversation or discussion and refuses to acknowledge you or your efforts to discuss anything, ignores your requests, responds with dismissive, invalidating replies or gives infuriatingly vague responses. Mothers who are controlling, combative, dismissive, or high in narcissistic traits may use stonewalling as a way of marginalizing, ignoring and dismissing a child. The message communicated is that the child is unimportant or irrelevant, and that her feelings and thoughts don’t matter to anyone and that they are crazy for having emotions. These confusing and frustrating messages become internalized and carried over into adulthood as a well-entrenched belief system about the self. The abuse we grow up with is hard to recognize because we’ve unconsciously normalized it. Visit https://www.gottman.com/ for more valuable information.
We are fun NON-therapists and we discuss not-so-fun toxic families and multi-generational dysfunction. We are ordinary people sharing a healing journey in hopes to inspire other ordinary people to laugh as well as find their own path to healing. We are not life coaches. We are not licensed therapists. We want to the be the voice of the unheard and take the subject of toxic families more seriously than we take ourselves...and we use bad words.
