“You can quit waiting for the other shoe to drop: I’m in it for life,” are the promising words that convinced author Kathryn Taylor to remarry, retire from her thirty-year profession, sell her home, and uproot to Charleston to support her new husband’s career. Life was honest and full of celebration when, out of nowhere, Kathryn’s husband announced that he was done with the marriage and didn't want to talk about it. At minute 7:30, Kathryn joins Chelsea to talk about it. In particular:+ the isolating yet rampant nature of unexpected abandonment and loss+ the mistreatment of women+ human nature is the want to understand what happens in your life+ the internalization of blame and responsibility+ what you do when you have no answers+ grieving in the United States is an unacceptable process+ the brief window of time to process pain in America+ the healing power of a best friend+ women are preprogramed to be givers and nurtures, rarely thinking of what’s best for them+ the timeframe for recovering is arbitrary and often feels unachievable+ the most pressing question she had in the midst of heartbreak+ why she now feels so fortunate that he left+ the silver lining benefit of not having support or a safety net+ without explanation, you have to provide meaning/closure independently + looking at the world differently after experiencing abandonment and becoming a writer+ the small ways we are losing our humanity+ grief is feeling like things won’t change+ the untapped strength in every one of us+ opportunity means there are options but I have to act upon the options+ the angels that have showed up post-heartbreak—Referenced within this episode:“You can’t control what may happen to you in this life, but you can control who you want to be after it happens.” — Jennifer Gilbert, author of I Never Promised You a Goodie Bag: A Memoir of Life Through Events—the Ones You Plan and the Ones You Don’thttps://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B006SJLJMA/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0—To connect with Kathryn, visit:Her website: www.kathryntaylorbooks.comPurchase her book: Two Minus One: A Memoirhttps://www.amazon.com/Two-Minus-One-Kathryn-Taylor/dp/1631524542—Work with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/shopFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterConnect and send in your questions and/or letters on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak or by email Chelsea@breakupward.com
