"We now get another opportunity to start a new chapter in life and the chapter can be anything you want it to be. It can be as big as you can dream. And as big as you can dream, that’s what your next chapter can be.” Divorce and Family Law Attorney, Mediator, Arbitrator and Litigator Chaim Steinberger lives and dies with his clients. As a result of his own nasty divorce, he knew there had to be a better way and now practices that better way as he protects, defends and shepherds people through the terror of divorce so they can come out on the other side without having destroyed everything they loved. In thanks to Chaim’s eccentric personality, this is by no means a dry episode. Instead, you’ll hear Chaim’s professionalism and romanticism in all its glory when he joins Chelsea 13 minutes in to talk about the luxury of divorce and the five things to do to save yourself from playing the short game and hurting yourself in the long run: principled negotiation rather than positional bargaining, utilizing reflective and active listening, never making accusations, leading with I-statements, and knowing the answer to, “what makes my signifiant other feel loved and what makes me feel loved?"Other gems to look out for:+ what men fear they will lose in the process of divorce versus what women fear they will lose+ how men and women define themselves differently + for the first time in human history, who you’re married to can be more important than just being married+ why you must listen to the post-um answer+ what we think we want is often different than what we really want + what we really want all goes back to the childhood wound+ the saddest couple dynamic to witness when walking into a restaurant + 98% of all people are in barely tolerable jobs and tolerable relationships + when does it stop being compromise and starts becoming settling+ prenups plant the seed for what you don’t want+ when people are in the throes of anger, they can’t accept an apology, it’s only once they feel understood that they can begin to come down+ the longer the battle and the nastier the battle, the more permanent and the deeper the injury to the children—To connect with Chaim, visit his:Website: https://thenewyorkdivorcelawyers.com—Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakConnect and send in your questions and/or letters viawww.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakOr by email: Chelsea@breakupward.com
