Inspired by Death, Sex & Money’s breakup episode Cut Loose, Emily Theis—a devoted listener of the DSM podcast, indie pop musician, and Head of Producer at Upstatement—created the Breakup Survival Guide, a site powered by listeners of the DSM podcast that services up randomized heartache cures. “You’re entitled to decide what you want and don’t want. And that’s sort of freeing, in that like, okay, I’m on this island and you're on that island and if the ocean between us is not what we both want then I don’t need to swim." — Emily Theis The conversation starts at 6:30. Gems to listen out for:+ how long-distance works for her+ tips to encourage someone back into the world post-heartbreak+ a set of questions to ask yourself in the midst of a relationship to check-in on the health of yourself and the relationship + in an age where it’s easy to text to make a plan and break a plan, you have to be purposeful about the time you spend with people+ the importance of reminding your brain that there isn’t only one person in the world that can help you+ if our expectations for partners have changed, it may be fine that the divorce rate has increased + how will long-term relationships change as our society changes+ no one walks into a relationship and predicts or counts on the tragedies and also the good surprises that they encounter in their lifetime+ often breakups are so powerful because it’s not what you wanted or expected or even, in the past, imagined could happen+ the power of softening to other people’s healing processes + you’re entitled to people treating you well but you’re not entitled to the exact imagination of everything perfect that makes things easy for you+ toggling your disappointment and sense of entitlement when something falls apart+ why the Breakup Survival Guide was made as a one-by-one randomizer versus a listicle + feelings are not scripted so, in the post-breakup aftermath, choosing your own healing adventure is more personal and empowering+ in an effort to be casual, people downplay their own disappointment as well as pamper their own excitement + we’re all on a journey of learning where all the special moments lie + happiness is not for a vacation but for right here in this moment+ being shameless about what you need + even your own past perception and advice will be more or less useful to you someday + how your words, and songs, can come back and mean something else to you in the future + being a musician enables you to have a time capsule of experience and growth—To connect with Emily, visit her:Breakup Survival Guide: www.breakupsurvivial.guideSubmit your own suggestions: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1gOWtev9fBu9fx0l-bsgrDWR7JB1GsNWi1A1Qr7v3atM/viewform?edit_requested=trueWebsite: http://emilythe.is Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_isSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/1zEABYYe4zKiVsiHJzC8zw?si=GirlklgTTsG3iYcfMS17yADeath, Sex & Money's breakup episode, Cut Loose: Your Breakup Storieshttps://www.wnycstudios.org/story/cut-loose-breakups-death-sex-money—Work with Chelsea: www.breakupward.com/shopChelsea’s website: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter: bit.ly/tyhbletterInstagram: www.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakConnect and send in your questions and/or letters viawww.instagram.com/thankyouheartbreakOr by email: Chelsea@breakupward.com
