"You feel terrible and then someone’s like, you’re not terrible, you’re actually good and he’s not good for you,” aerial acrobat and belly dancer Brice LaGrand explains to Chelsea why admitting you deserve better is actually more challenging than admitting your abuse. "It’s terrifying because it means you have to accept responsibility and be like, okay, now I have to choose. If I deserve better, then, I have to either choose to not give myself what I deserve and choose not to love myself in that way or I have to choose to start trying to find that and figure out what that looks like. It’s so much easier to just accept where you are and be like this is life now versus trying to improve it and find something that’s better for you.”
In today’s episode, Brice details the fork in the road that victims of abuse stand at in the darkest hour. Drawing from his own experience in an abusive marriage as well as his work with a battered woman’s shelter and prevention and intervention programs, he shines a light on the isolating and often unspoken reality of abuse. For instance, how one’s own empathy and compassion can make them stay and how, on the flip side, this idea that you can keep your partner with you just by being a good partner for them simply never occurs to an abuser because a healthy relationship is something they’ve never witnessed or been taught.
If you’ve ever stayed too long in a relationship of any sort or simply been aching to abandon the façade that comes with playing by the dating rules, this episode will resonate, providing you with the inspiration to get real sooner, become a little bit more self-possessed, have faith in one’s own power to redirect one's life, doubt the things we think, hear or have been conditioned to believe about ourselves (like, you’re worthless) as well as offer a straightforward solution to the fear of being alone—find connection—and permission to not only leave but outgrow the loneliness of toxic relationships and even the hookup culture, serving up a reminder that the easy choice isn’t the one that will make us strong, free, or proud.
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