“F.L.Y. – First Love Yourself. Others will come next.” Anonymous
You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.” Diane Von Furstenberg.
If you love yourself, everything else falls into place. You are your number one fun and you cannot expect people to love you if you do not love yourself; it shows when you don’t love yourself. You show it by the way you walk, the comments you make about yourself, how you treat your body, how you talk and act.
Those negative remarks you make reinforce what you think about yourself. you may have learned it from your childhood, from your culture from your friends, but this habit does not build you. Avoid at all costs, bringing yourself down. I am certain you would not enjoy the company of someone who keeps telling you how but they are at one thing, how ugly they are, how untalented they are or how they cannot do one thing or the other.
`How do I learn to love myself?
· Affirmations: Remember the lesson we learned from taking back your power? take those positive adjectives that describe you and repeat them every morning. repeat them until they become your second nature. Once you overwrite those demeaning thoughts you begin to realise the positive side of you.
· Self-care: Taking care of your mind, body and spirit goes a long way in helping you love yourself. Make it a daily habit to build the inner person who comes to serve the outer you.
· Grooming: Growing up, I was admonished for being unkempt and our parents kept repeating, “ cleanliness is next to godliness.” Keeping yourself clean and neat helps you manage stress, you feel calm and confident. Looking good is seldom about physical attributes but rather it is about hygiene and grooming. Take time to be clean, tidy neat and you will feel a confidence boost almost instantly.
· Pamper yourself, reward yourself: After a hard days work, it is okay to pamper yourself; with a bubble bath, a massage session a relaxing dinner out or in house good food. Your soul needs some love for having taken you through a hard day or a tough ordeal. Pampering varies from one person to the next but the goal is to tap into the ‘feel-good’ hormones that come with a good reward. Remember that you only reward yourself after achieving the set goals or tasks, never before.
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