Unforgiveness
We have all heard the quote about unforgiveness that says “harboring unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” But do we really understand it? Certainly, we understand how accurate this definition of unforgiveness is and how ludicrous a notion this is cognitively, but does that change our reaction when we are wronged? It is my opinion that most people secretly harbor unforgiveness on some level. Let’s unpack what unforgiveness really is….
Boiled down, unforgiveness is fear. That’s all. But that’s enough.
When we are wronged by someone, there is an instinct to want to protect ourselves. This is self-preservation on a primal level. Or should I say an un-renewed level. This notion is something that we deploy toward people and animals and on some level, situations. Situationally, it expresses itself as PTSD. However, I’d like to propose that Unforgiveness, along with PTSD are both just natural reactions of the mind that can be renewed to react differently. When we operate in unforgiveness, or PTSD, for that matter, we are essentially saying that we do not trust God to protect us. We intensely believe that it is solely our responsibility to do that. What does that say about how we understand the love of God as an actuality in our lives? I think it says that we don’t think He loves us enough to protect us when we do something stupid or let someone in who is dangerous. Is that true? Do you think it’s true?
It’s not.
I can prove it.
For the sake of this discussion and your time, let’s suffice it to say that God has always protected us from doing stupid things and from stupid people. In fact, that is what salvation is all about. In fact, that is why God evicted Adam and Eve from the Garden…. He didn’t want them living forever in a sinful state, so He removed from their grasp the Tree of Life. The long and short is that God will protect you if you let Him. He will also teach you how to make wiser decisions if you let Him.
So, let Him…
In this video, Heath demonstrates with Moses what unforgiveness looks like in a very real sense… watch and see if you can see the correlation in your own life and then, let loose the reins!
https://waterwindwine.org
In this session, I used a song called “Freedom Fighter” by Jo Wandrini
https://www.epidemicsound.com/track/o7hFTFtw8j/
