This week I want to talk to you about being an overcomer. I believe all of us are overcomers & can continue to be overcomers simply by not giving up.
Being an overcomer is simply someone that succeeds in dealing with problems and/or difficulties in their lives & making the decision to not give up, even when situations get really tough.
Here are some notes from today's episode:
- There are no prerequisites to being an overcomer or what would be considered one. If you feel you are or have overcome something, you’re an overcomer.
- And it’s important to acknowledge you are an overcomer because you are telling yourself you are working to become a better version of yourself & be proud of yourself for not giving up, even in your darkest moments. And even if you took a pause for a moment, but came back to the fight, that isn’t considered giving up, you’re still an overcomer.
- And as specific as this may seem, this week I will be sharing with you some things I myself am working on overcoming or have overcome in the past. But I know these topics will still resonate with so many of you because these are common. (quick rundown of episodes)
- Specifically today we are going to be talking about overcoming people-pleasing.
- Being a people pleaser is so common to many & is usually learned at a young age, but not always. And being a people pleaser isn’t necessarily just about wanting to make others happy, but goes deeper than this. It’s common it has a lot to do with your self-worth. And it’s rooted in fear to gain love & acceptance. And in my case, I developed a people-pleasing personality because I was mistreated growing up & came to the conclusion that if I was going to survive this life, I needed to please everyone around me. This then developed into a way of life. Another way this can come about is believing if you are nice & do things for everyone, there will be acceptance.
- And let’s quickly identify some signs of someone that is a people pleaser, in case you aren’t sure if you are one or not. Quick list: You need others to like you, you have a low opinion of yourself, you always adapt your opinion to fit someone else’s, you aren’t able to say ‘no’ & establish boundaries. And these are just a few examples.
- People-pleasing is easily confused with thinking you’re being kind & if you don’t continue to give everything you have, you’ll be seen as selfish or not a good person. But honestly, this is just a false belief you have taken on because it’s a type of protection for you.
- Let’s talk about some ways we can overcome people-pleasing & leave that personality behind:
- 1. Know you aren’t responsible for other’s feelings & emotions.
- 2. Accept that not everyone needs to like you for you to like yourself.
- 3. Take care of yourself first if you want to keep taking care of others.
- 4. Set boundaries. ( Do I want to do this, really?/Will I have to sacrifice something important to me for this?/How will I feel participating?)
- 5. Wait to be asked & still evaluate the request before agreeing.
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