Hello Everyone & Welcome Back to the RealPositiveGirl Podcast!
Thank you so much for joining me again!
This week's theme for the podcast is: Let's Quit Together
This week I want to talk to you about how we can stop engaging in behaviors that aren't helping us become our best selves.
Making the decision to quit doing things like gossiping, saying sorry all the time or sacrificing sleep will help us focus more on what is actually important in our lives, lean more towards the positive & become our best selves.
Here are some notes from today's episode:
- Does anyone else have this bad habit? You end up saying sorry about everything, especially things that have nothing to do with you. And this behavior can become such a bad habit so quickly because it can come to a point where you don’t even realize you are saying it after so long.
- And the need to say sorry often can stem from so many experiences, from your childhood, to experiencing imposter syndrome, to just being a people pleaser. You tend to feel like everything is your fault, so you take the blame, because you expect it.
- Let’s go over some reasons you may be struggling with saying sorry all the time.
- People pleasing. Pleasers want to be seen as nice & kind people & do not ever want to be seen in a negative light. Apologizing often assures you that you won’t offend someone else.
- Low self-esteem. You think very poorly of yourself, which can translate into you believing you need to worry about causing issues, becoming a problem or getting in the way of others.
- Feeling responsible for other’s actions & feelings. You often feel responsible for other people’s actions & emotions because they are a partner or someone close to you & you want to shield them from any consequences or negative impacts because of their behaviors. But by apologizing for them, you are actually enabling their behavior & feeding the cycle. You are only responsible for your own feelings & behavior, no matter what.
- And if I haven’t convinced you yet that apologizing all the time is not a good habit, hopefully this will help. Just know that by apologizing all the time, you are hurting your credibility as a person. If you are constantly saying sorry & taking the blame, that doesn’t lend itself to others trusting you to get things done or be responsible. You are also busting on your confidence & criticizing yourself.
- You are genuinely only responsible for the things you personally have done. Nothing else. You are allowed to take up space & have needs. Everyone is allowed that.
- Let’s chat about how to quit saying sorry when it’s not necessary:
- 1. Catch yourself before you apologize. Awareness is key.
- 2. Ask yourself if you really need to apologize. Did you do something wrong?
- 3. Try to rephrase what you’re saying that’s not apologetic. (thank for you waiting for me, unfortunately this isn’t for me, thank you for listening, I’d like to ask a question please.)
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