Hello Everyone & Welcome Back to the RealPositiveGirl Podcast!
Thank you so much for joining me again!
Happy Tuesday!
This week's theme for the podcast is: How to be Supportive
This week we are going to speak about how you can be a really great support person for someone else in your life. This could also help you identify whether or not you are getting the support you want from others in your life supporting you.
Join me in going over these tips on how to be the best supportive person!
Here are some notes from today's episode:
- I think it is very important to distinguish the difference between being supportive & enabling someone.
- Being supportive is a great, helpful thing & enabling someone is not helpful in the slightest & really only leads to trouble for both sides.
- Let’s start with what it means to be an enabler. Enabling someone can look a lot like love. You want to be kind & caring & not shatter that person’s world. But you also need to be real with yourself & realize you might also be enabling because you fear rejection & hurting that person’s feelings.
- By allowing someone to continue in damaging behaviors or aiding in those behaviors and activities, you create more damage.
- Enabling can also be seen as not allowing someone to deal with negative emotions & consequences, which can eventually lead someone to believe their behavior is acceptable.
- Some examples of enabling: Allowing someone you know say they are sick when you know they are hungover & have a problem with alcohol. Allowing a child to skip school because they didn’t get their work completed. Giving money to someone that is struggling with gambling or buying things they need to not be purchasing.
- Maybe you don’t realize you are enabling someone. Here are some questions to ask yourself to see if you are: Do you find yourself making excuses for the other person? Do you often put your own needs second to someone else? Are you constantly telling yourself whatever the behavior is that it isn’t a big deal? Do you find yourself trying to take responsibility for their actions?
- Now let’s talk about being supportive. Being supportive can look like someone that is available to listen when needed, give advice when asked, be there to support specific, individual decisions, give general love & comfort & be trustworthy & safe to be around.
- And as I mentioned yesterday, being supportive also means learning to balance between being helpful & positive, but also honest & realistic with your comfort & advice.
- And you will know that you are overstepping your bounds when you try to force your advice on someone, try to take control of the situation or start making assumptions about the situation or problem & becoming judgemental.
- Being supportive with an edge of honesty is the best place to be, but will need some practice if you are aren’t familiar with giving honest yet kind advice/opinions while being helpful.
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