Hello Everyone & Welcome Back to the RealPositiveGirl Podcast!
Thank you so much for joining me again!
Happy Wednesday!
This week's theme for the podcast is: Assertiveness
Assertiveness might not be something you think about often or think is super important, but knowing how to be assertive comes in handy during so many different times in our lives.
Some might quickly categorize this as something super important to have at work, which is true, but is great to practice in your personal life, too. You don’t want to be known on the downlow as someone that can be walked all over. But you also don’t want to be seen as that overly aggressive person that no one feels comfortable talking to.
Join me in learning more about being assertive this week!
Here are some notes from today's episode:
- Today I want to use some comparisons so that it’s easy to understand whether you are being aggressive, passive or assertive & just a brief overview of all three.
- Let’s start with an easy one. If you are passive, you give into everything someone tells/asks you to do. If aggressive, you take control of the situation & end up being the one telling people what they have to do. But if you’re assertive, you compromise.
- If you are passive, you are constantly trying to keep the peace with everyone & cause no waves. If aggressive, you really are only looking out for yourself. But if you’re assertive, you will make sure everything is fair for everyone involved, without leaving anyone out.
- If you are passive, you tend to allow others to bully you. If aggressive, let’s face it, you’re the bully. But if you’re assertive, you will stand up for yourself.
- If you are passive, it’s going to be very rare that you say what you think or really speak at all. If aggressive, you will speak aggressively, shout, possible violence will occur & you will talk over others & not allow them to speak at all. But if you’re assertive, you end up expressing your point very clearly & with confidence & also have a balance of both speaking & listening.
- This is a good one because the passive & aggressive are very similar, which is interesting. If you are passive, you will tend to damage your relationships because people end up respecting you less. If aggressive, you will also end up damaging your relationships because peeps don’t like aggression. But if you’re assertive, you end up enhancing relationships because they know you well & know where you stand on most things.
- Here is a small thing, but I believe it is super important with communication. If you are passive, you avoid eye contact with others. If aggressive, it's more of a judgemental stare. But if you’re assertive, you just maintain eye contact.
- If you are passive, you believe everyone else is more valuable than you are. If aggressive, you tend to hurt others to avoid getting hurt yourself. But if you’re assertive, you value yourself & respect others.
- This is the last one & my fav: If you are passive, you have soft or no boundaries at all. If aggressive, you can be very demanding but also have hard boundaries. But if you’re assertive, you have healthy boundaries that set good limits for yourself.
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