We all spend way too much time judging ourselves, yet we get upset when others judge us. We should be upset about both & actually work towards lessening this habit & wanting to love ourselves more.
Show Notes:
I judge myself a ton because it allows me to pick everything apart & always have a reason for why I can’t do something, why I’m not good at something & provides a distraction for me to focus on, rather than understand why I am that why & what actually needs to be done about it.
I feel like this might become a rant, but I’m going to try hard to not let it be.
A lot of times we judge ourselves so harshly because we want to be in control of as many things as possible. Control is so comforting. It makes us feel like we know what’s going to happen & we don’t have to worry as much about what is going to happen, which can lessen anxiety.
But we also just set ourselves up with these crazy, high expectations that we really honestly know we won’t match up with, but it’s us saying, “why not? Let’s just be crazy,” and we set ourselves up for failure. It’s also a way for us to be in control of ourselves when we have these specific expectations for how we should behave, how we should feel things, basically how our life should go. Super realistic, right? These self-made ideals we know we won’t live up to create great opportunities to judge ourselves & the cycle goes on.
Do we understand that spending so much time judging ourselves is basically being at war with ourselves? Do we get that? I feel like we don’t because we just keep doing it. Like a truly bad habit. Spending so much time pointing out what we don’t like about ourselves, our lives & whatever season of life we are currently going through isn’t productive. You are really just complaining. If there is no action in the direction of change with this type of commentary, it’s really just complaining. So let’s be aware of at least that.
But we should also realize that when we spend the time & energy getting upset about others judging us & standing up for ourselves that way, we forget that this should also include the negative judgement we throw at ourselves on the regular. Constructive criticism? Yes, that’s actually helpful. But that’s different than berating yourself constantly for not meeting unrealistic expectations. We need to stop overlooking the judgement we press on ourselves because this negatively impacts our self-esteem & how we feel about ourselves.
I know I normally do a set of tips in most of my episodes & this episode will be no different, but these tips won’t be groundbreaking. These will be more reminder-ish & helpful to re-train your brain to lay up on the intense self-judgement.
I hope this was a helpful reminder session to treat yourself better.
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