If you’ve ever stood frozen in the kitchen, fully aware of what needs doing — and still couldn’t start — this episode is for you.
This week’s Quick Reset tears apart the toxic myth that ADHD mums just need to “try harder.” Jane unpacks what’s actually happening when your brain stalls, and why shame, not laziness, is often the real culprit. From inner critics echoing old failures to the neuroscience behind executive dysfunction, this is a raw, validating, and darkly funny call to stop blaming effort — and start working with your brain instead.
You’ll learn practical, low-pressure strategies to get started (no, not with a new app), and finally understand why “just do it” advice doesn’t just fail ADHD mums — it hurts us.
✨ IN THIS RESET:
- The damaging myth of laziness and willpower
- How shame shuts down executive function
- Why ADHD is not about motivation — it’s about regulation
- What to say to yourself instead of “I just need to focus”
- Brain-based strategies for task initiation that actually help
- Real talk about fridge purchases, hyperfocus, and starting vs finishing
- Why “trying harder” never fixed burnout — and never will
💭 This episode is for you if:
– You keep thinking, “I should be able to do this” — but can’t start
– You’ve got planners, lists, and alarms… and still feel stuck
– You want to stop spiralling into shame and start using strategies that work for your brain
🔗 Sources & Citations:
- Brown, T. E. (2006). Attention Deficit Disorder: The Unfocused Mind in Children and Adults. Yale University Press.
- Barkley, R. A., Murphy, K. R., & Fischer, M. (2006). The ADHD Report, 14(6), 6–11.
- Volkow, N. D., Wang, G.-J., Kollins, S. H., Wigal, T. L., Newcorn, J. H., Telang, F., ... & Swanson, J. M. (2011). “Motivation deficit in ADHD is associated with dysfunction of the dopamine reward pathway.” Molecular Psychiatry, 16(11), 1147–1154.
- Sonuga-Barke, E. J. S. (2005). “Causal models of ADHD: From common simple deficits to multiple developmental pathways.” Biological Psychiatry, 57(11), 1231–1238.
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