You’ve already heard the basics: ADHD isn’t just for boys. Autism isn’t all hand-flapping. Great. But what about the deeper stuff?
In this solo episode, Jane takes a sledgehammer to the most persistent, harmful, and advanced myths that are still sabotaging ADHD and autistic women.
From the dangerous praise of ‘high functioning’ to the weaponisation of executive function, performative neurodiversity, and the false promise that meds fix everything—this is the truth the awareness campaigns skip.
If you’ve ever been told you’re ‘too capable to struggle’, ‘too smart to be ADHD’, or ‘too emotional to be taken seriously’, this episode is your armour.
💡 What We Cover:
Why ‘high functioning’ is just ‘high masking’—and why it’s killing us slowly
How executive function gets twisted into shame and perfectionism
Why medication is support, not salvation
The deeply gendered myth of what autism ‘looks like’ in kids
Neuroaffirming ≠ letting your child do whatever they want
Why your nervous system needs more than a planner and good intentions
The hidden cost of chasing ‘normal’ as a goal
How parenting myths keep mums stuck in shame, guilt, and silence
🔗 Resources & Links:
📚 Research cited:
Hull et al. (2020) on camouflaging in ADHD & autism
Brown’s Executive Function Model (ADD Warehouse)
Lye & Baron-Cohen (2015) on misdiagnosis in girls
Dvorsky (2016) on long-term neurodivergent outcomes
Dr Mona Delahooke on co-regulation & scaffolding
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