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Healthy boundaries are all the rage . . . and with good reason. Having them helps us feel empowered, reduces resentment and encourages self-respect. But what about when it comes to sex? How can you practice saying no and communicating your needs without pushing the other person away?

Do healthy sexual boundaries mean you’re never going to have casual sex (answer - no!)? How can sexual boundaries help you feel safer with your partner? 

Embodiment practices can help. By being in your body and not just your head (the brain head, not the other one), you’ll learn what a YES truly feels like and what a NO feels like. 

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

1. How Heather set boundaries in a dating situation & how it worked out.
2. Having sex more than you truly want to: Using sex for validation. Having sex early on so it’s not an issue. Getting sex out of the way.
3. Sexual boundary issues often stem from a disconnect in your body. Your mind could be bulldozing your body specifically. 
4. The ability to tune into your body is important to all this. Ways you can practice: Do a body scan guided meditation. Do a sensual massage with your partner and notice where you feel relaxed, if you feel self-conscious or squeamish anywhere. Practice feeling your emotions in your body. 
5. Not being vulnerable enough. Working through fear and aversion. If it’s a safe space and you’re committed to showing up for yourself, it’s ok to push the envelope a bit.

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