PACK CULTURE…
PACK CULTURE…
OK, what I want to talk about today is something that has never really been on my radar before…but since I’ve been doing this podcast more people are talking to me about stuff that I never really considered before. One of those things has to do with the behavior of men in a group, and it has to do specifically with behavior directed at women. I am calling this behavior “Pack Culture”, because I don’t know what else to call it.
It’s important to note that it isn’t just women who are the victims…it could be any gender or group of people that finds themselves in the minority, but for the ease of communicating this problem I will refer to women specifically.
Most of the cases I’m hearing about seem to happen in the workplace, in situations where there are a majority of males and a minority of women.
What’s happening is that the women are being subjected to unwanted sexual advances, demeaning insulting comments, and they are frequently the target of off-color jokes and other forms of harassment.
When the women in question reject advances made by their male colleagues, or stand up for themselves and demand a little respect, then the abuse intensifies to the point that many women ultimately quit their job in search of a less hostile workplace, or they pursue legal action…or, in some unfortunate cases, they succumb to it.
Apparently this behavior is extremely widespread based on the reports I’m getting. If anyone listening has a story that corroborates this, I invite you to send it to me, just write me an email.
Some of you listening might be like, duh…this isn’t new information. I apologize for my naivety on this matter…but it has never been on my radar, because this is the opposite of how I was raised. I have never been in a group of men where this happened and if I was…I would be the first one to try and correct it…because…its wrong. It’s just plain wrong and it sickens me to know that its happening. It’s the exact opposite of being a better man.
I’m calling it Pack Culture because in the accounts I have heard of, it seems to fit the pack mentality…like for example, a pack of wild dogs. There is usually a bad Alpha male leading the group. Yes…I make a distinction between bad Alpha’s and Good Alpha’s. Our prisons are full of Bad Alpha’s.
Anyway, this bad Alpha leads by example and then the other guys in the group follow his example in an effort to find their own niche in the pack. Every pack has a pecking order. Guys who don’t follow suit, suffer their own form of abuse. Eventually the pack culture is in place and the ones who suffer the most are the women in or around the group.
Guys…what’s going on? This is not the behavior of men, this is the behavior of wild dogs. Where is the intellect?
