When We Screw Up…What Then?
You know right from the start when I decided to put this podcast together, I did so with the intent of inviting other men to join me on a path I was already on. The path of perpetual improvement, getting better in every area of life every day. That’s why I call myself “your fellow man in the trenches” in the intro. Because I really, really am right there in the trenches with you, last night I proved it.
I’ll tell you something else too. Doing this podcast for about a year and a half now has created some changes. Changes in my life, changes inside me. Another one of those changes is in the level to which, I am accountable.
In addition to all the regular ways in which I am accountable, I have realized that I am also accountable to you—the listeners. I feeI feel like I owe you a higher level of forthrightness. It is for that reason that I am going to share something personal with you today.
I sit here three times a week telling all of you ways in which you can be a better man. Because I’m the one doing all the talking, some of you might assume that I have it all figured out. You might assume I am a finished product, that I don’t make mistakes or doing anything wrong. Knowing me only through this podcast could present the illusion that I never have a bad day, or that I am never plagued with weakness of character.
Well my friends, I’m here to tell you that if you have made any of those assumptions, you are in error. I’m really no different than any of you, I’m just a man. I am an imperfect, fallible, sometimes stupid, and sometimes weak man. Like you though, I am also a man that wants to be a better man, and that’s why we are all here.
Last night, I was NOT a better man. Today I woke up ashamed of myself. I woke up angry and disgusted with the guy in the mirror. I’ll tell you what I did, but I want to be very clear about my motives for doing so. I’m not sharing this for sympathy or condolences. Nor am I doing so hoping to appear noble or contrite or anything like that.
The reason I’m sharing this is for the example it can provide. My experience may be able to help someone else. Also, because like I said earlier, I feel somewhat accountable to you. I let myself down and in doing so I let down my wife and my family, everyone who looks towards me as an example. It also means that I let you down, so I want to come clean as the first step toward correcting that.
Four years ago when I met my wife she shared with me what her ‘deal-breakers’ were. She doesn’t drink at
