Description

Episode 53: Love Wars: Clash of the Parents

Guest for this episode: Matthew Tower

Bio:

Matthew A. Tower is an author, art director, audiobook narrator, and entrepreneur. He first saw Star Wars in theaters at age three. Love Wars: Clash of the Parents, A True Divorce Story is his debut work of literature.

Previously, he was the founder and CEO of Versus Books, and published more than 50 gaming strategy guides for hits like The Legend of Zelda, selling over 5 million copies.

Book Link:

Love Wars: Clash of the Parents

Keywords

divorce, amicable resolution, custody battles, parenting, emotional resilience, high conflict, memoir, Better Than Bitter, Love Wars, parenting strategies

Summary

In this episode, Tania Leichliter interviews Matthew A. Tower, author of 'Love Wars, Clash of the Parents.' They discuss the challenges of navigating divorce, particularly focusing on the impact of high conflict situations on children. Matthew shares his personal experiences growing up in a custody battle and emphasizes the importance of amicable resolutions for the sake of children. The conversation highlights the dynamics of victim vs. victor, the role of supportive adults, and the necessity of emotional resilience in the face of divorce.

Takeaways

• Matthew's memoir offers a unique perspective on divorce from a child's viewpoint.
• High-conflict divorces can have lasting negative effects on children.
• The importance of putting children first during divorce proceedings.
• Parents should strive for amicable resolutions to avoid emotional trauma for kids.
• The victim vs. victor dynamic is crucial in navigating divorce.
• Supportive adults can play a significant role in de-escalating conflict.
• Mindset is key in managing divorce-related challenges.
• Flexibility in parenting plans is essential for co-parenting success.
• Children internalize negative comments about their parents, affecting their self-esteem.
• The concept of the 'de-escalator' can help parents manage conflict better.

Titles

Navigating Divorce: Insights from Love Wars

The Child's Perspective on Divorce

Sound Bites

"It's all about mindset."

"You must be 50% bad."

"You can't control other people."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Love Wars

02:27 Matthew's Unique Perspective on Divorce

06:40 The Impact of High-Conflict Divorces

14:14 The Role of Mindset in Divorce

18:34 Understanding High-Conflict Personalities

26:40 The Importance of De-escalation

33:42 Finding Hope and Support in Difficult Times

47:36 Introduction to Amicable Divorce

49:05 Resources for Support and Growth

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