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Episode Title: “The Chaos of Hate” By Tracy Kenela, M.A., LMHC, CRC, CEDS, ACHT of Lokahi Counseling

Intro: Tracy Kenela is the founder of Lokahi Counseling and Calming the Chaos Podcast. In this episode, Tracy discusses hate: as a feeling, as a thought form and as a behavior / action. She gives an example of hate by exploring the actions of online attacks or “Cyber-Bullying.” She analyzes some possible reasons for online attacks, how online attacks can cause chaos in the lives of people, and some ideas about what you could do if you are attacked online.

1. What is hate? Intense or passionate dislike for something or someone
2. 1. The hater can either have no chaos or a lot of chaos
   2. If the hater attacks something or someone, chaos likely happens to the one attacked

1. Example: Online attacks or “Cyber-Bullying” – An illustration of the Chaos of Hate
2. 1. Possible Situation: A social media post, platform, YouTube or Instagram channel or podcast that expresses opinions or information that the hater disagrees with, passionately dislikes, or is intensely against.
   2. Possible Thoughts: (Tend to be extreme thinking of good, bad, right or wrong, as opposed to open, attentive, accepting of alternative viewpoints and values)

1. Example #1: “I disagree with their viewpoint, so I hate the person.”
2. Example #2: “I hate the person, so I hate everyone associated with them.”

• Example #3: “I need to set this person straight”

1. Example #4: “This person needs to be punished.”

1. Possible Feelings: Anger. Fear. Sadness. Embarrassment.
2. Possible Action / behavioral urge: Destruction of whatever the viewpoint is.
3. Actions / behaviors:

1. Gathering forces: against the person, and for the hater’s agenda
2. Lashing out: Online attacks (verbal or video)

• Discrediting or disliking

1. Name-calling
2. Harassment
3. Violence

• Doxxing
• Chat disturbances

1. Humiliation
2. Lawsuits

1. What is going on here when people act out on their hate? (mental health perspective)
2. 1. They truly believe there is an injustice that needs to be corrected
   2. They could have unresolved mental health issues (anger, delusions, impulse control)
   3. They could lack empathy or have no awareness as to the effects their actions could have
   4. They could direct their own anger at themselves to other people (“projection”) because they hate their own lives
   5. They could have envy or jealousy
   6. They could like the drama (See my future “Addicted to chaos” interview with Duane Osterlind of www.theaddictedmind.com)
   7.  They could have trouble seeing other viewpoints, so have a “narrow view” (as opposed to a “broad view”)
   8. They could have authority issues and like breaking rules
   9. They’ve had hurtful trauma, so they have learned to act out in ways that are hurtful

1. Seeing the positive traits in those who act out on their hate:
2. 1. They are creative
   2. They stand for truth, fairness and justice (as they see it)
   3. They are often humorous and creative in their attacks
   4. They are passionate about their agendas – fiercely defend what is right
   5. They are persistent
   6. They are influential and charismatic

1. Seeing the painful effects of those who act out on their hate:
2. 1. They...