Description

Ever found yourself mid-argument thinking, “What am I even saying right now?”

You can feel your voice getting sharper, your heart pounding, the words flying out before you can catch them. And afterward? The shame. The self-blame. The fear you’ve done damage you can’t undo.

This episode is for you—the partner who reacts quickly, deeply, maybe loudly... and who hates that it keeps happening.

In this powerful solo episode, Dr. Rachel walks you through what’s actually going on when you lose it in a relationship, why it's more about protection than personality, and how you can begin to change the cycle without abandoning yourself in the process.

You’ll learn:

1. Why reactivity isn’t a flaw—it’s a survival strategy wired into your nervous system
2. How unresolved emotional injuries from the past hijack your present interactions
3. What the reactivity cycle looks and feels like in real life (with a step-by-step breakdown)
4. How to repair after a rupture in a way that fosters trust, not defensiveness
5. 5 concrete steps you can start practicing today to catch yourself earlier and reconnect faster

This isn’t about becoming perfect. It’s about becoming more present, more honest, and more connected—to yourself, and to the people you love.

Resources

1. Free Course | Break the Cycle: A self-paced introduction to understanding your patterns and nervous system responses.
2. Private Coaching (Limited Availability): High-touch, individualized support for deep relational pattern change.
3. The Attachment Revolution Membership — Waitlist: Ongoing education, tools, and live support for building more secure relationships.
4. Meaningful Journey Counseling (WA residents only): Licensed therapy services for individuals and couples in Washington State.

Disclaimer

This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for mental health treatment, therapy, diagnosis, or medical advice. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are experiencing significant distress, please seek support from a licensed mental health professional or medical provider.