Description

You thought you met “the one.” The texts were constant, the chemistry electric, the declarations over the top. It felt like the kind of love story movies are made of—until the calls stopped, the plans evaporated, and you were left reeling.

That’s the whiplash of love bombing and ghosting. The high feels intoxicating, but the crash leaves you doubting yourself, shrinking, and working twice as hard to keep someone from slipping away.

In this episode of Coupled With…, Dr. Rachel Orleck unpacks:

1. Why fireworks feel like connection but aren’t the same as intimacy
2. How dopamine fuels chaos, while oxytocin builds steadiness
3. The exhausting loop of over-functioning when intensity fades
4. Practical reflection questions to tell the difference between clarity and chaos
5. What secure love really feels like—and why “calm” isn’t the same as “boring”

Secure love may not start with fireworks, but it lasts longer than any spark. If you’ve ever been love bombed, ghosted, or caught in the cycle of chasing intensity, this conversation will help you reframe the story and recognize the kind of love that’s built to stay.

Resources

1. Free Course | Break the Cycle: A self-paced introduction to understanding your patterns and nervous system responses.
2. Private Coaching (Limited Availability): High-touch, individualized support for deep relational pattern change.
3. The Attachment Revolution Membership — Waitlist: Ongoing education, tools, and live support for building more secure relationships.
4. Meaningful Journey Counseling (WA residents only): Licensed therapy services for individuals and couples in Washington State.

Disclaimer

This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for mental health treatment, therapy, diagnosis, or medical advice. Listening to this podcast does not create a therapist-client relationship. If you are experiencing significant distress, please seek support from a licensed mental health professional or medical provider.