As September closes, forget lukewarm goals because this conversation is about striking the match yourself. Kelly of Western Workouts joins us for a conversation about the kind of fire fueled by self-belief, reckless confidence, and a refusal to waste energy on what doesn’t matter.
This episode began, as many of our best ones do, with a yap-and-cheer session that turned into a bonfire of ideas. We talk about why spite may get you moving, but it never leaves you satisfied, and why a process you love always beats an outcome that looks shiny but feels empty.
Kelly brings her perspective from training horses, bodies, and minds. We add our lens of capacity, discernment, and real-life integration. Together we unravel what it means to build a fire of our own; whether that means claiming your time back from distractions, letting go without fanfare, or saying yes to hard things without fearing how hard they’ll be.
Listen In For …
- Why a self-belief bonfire outlasts a spite-fueled spark every time.
- The practice of reckless confidence: deciding you’ll figure it out, then getting to work.
- How to be unbothered by noise, urgency, and opinions that don’t serve you.
- The case for integration over silos when it comes to motherhood, work, and identity.
- When to simply step back into the bushes: no drama, no debate, just disengagement.
- Why discipline is less about willpower and more about respecting your own energy.
- How patience and slow-burn often set the stage for your boldest moves.
- The role your people play in elevating your fire instead of draining it.
TL;DR (Minute by Minute)
- 00:00 September check-in and the fire worth tending.
- 06:15 Spite vs. self-belief: why empty wins don’t satisfy.
- 10:00 Process over outcome: act, adjust, repeat.
- 25:30 Practicing being unbothered: disengaging with grace.
- 30:00 Integration > silos: motherhood, work, identity.
- 36:20 Reckless confidence and pouring the gasoline at your feet.
- 42:45 Circles, standards, and raising your own algorithm.
- 48:00 Closing: presence through the holidays, confidence that sustains.
Where to Go From Here
- Join the conversation: Screenshot this episode and tag @cowgirlsovercoffee and @westernworkouts on Instagram/Threads—tell us where you’re pouring your gasoline this season.
- Grab the free Routine Playbook: Build daily structure that makes acting (and adjusting) easier.
- Connect with Kelly: Follow Western Workouts for strength, stamina, and no-nonsense confidence.
- Stay in the loop: Subscribe, review, and share so more women can light fires that actually last.
