Description

are you constantly wondering if you’re doing too much… or not enough… for your autistic child?

in autism parenting, it can feel like every decision is high stakes. you hear “lower demands.” you hear “do exposure.” you hear “presume competence.” you hear autistic voices sharing lived experience. and somehow, you’re still left wondering what actually applies to your child.

this episode won’t give you a black-and-white formula. but it will help you understand how to think through this question in a grounded, regulated way — and how to navigate the tension between accommodation and over accommodation without swinging to extremes.

in this episode, you’ll hear:

1. why nothing in autism parenting is black and white
2. how to filter research, professional advice, and autistic voices
3. what accommodation vs overaccommodation actually means
4. why overaccommodating anxiety can unintentionally reinforce it
5. how “low demand” can slide into eggshell parenting
6. when to gently peel back support to presume competence
7. how to use trial and error without turning it into self-blame

timestamps

00:00 the importance of nuance in autism parenting

03:05 navigating accommodation vs over accommodation

11:29 understanding exposure therapy and its nuances

16:08 balancing structure and flexibility in parenting

23:08 empowering autonomy and self-advocacy in children

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