In this empowering episode of 5 Year You, Andrew and Catherine unpack the myths and realities of confidence. They explore how confidence is not an innate trait but a skill that anyone can learn and develop over time. By sharing personal stories, practical strategies, and insights on overcoming self-doubt, they help listeners build the foundation for self-assuredness and resilience. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to live more authentically and boldly.
Key Topics Covered:
- Confidence as a Skill: Catherine discusses how confidence is developed through practice and self-discovery, not something people are simply born with.
- Overcoming Fear of Judgment: How evolutionary instincts contribute to self-consciousness and strategies to push past fear.
- Trial and Error in Building Confidence: Andrew shares how persistence and vulnerability are key to improving confidence in new areas.
- Support Systems for Growth: The importance of surrounding yourself with people who encourage and uplift you.
- Confidence and Authenticity: Why confidence grows when you live in alignment with your true self.
Actionable Steps for Listeners:
- Reframe Confidence: Treat it as a skill to develop, not a trait you either have or don’t.
- Embrace Vulnerability: Be open to feedback and willing to try new things, even if they don’t go perfectly at first.
- Write a Confidence List: Reflect on everything you’ve accomplished in your life, big or small, as a reminder of your capability.
- Find Your Support Team: Surround yourself with people who uplift and encourage your growth.
- Challenge Your Inner Critic: Engage with the voice of self-doubt and question its validity to break free from fear.
Quotes:
Catherine’s Aha Moments:
- "Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build."
- "The more you live in alignment with your authentic self, the more confidence becomes a natural result."
- "It takes time and practice to say, ‘That’s great for you, but this is what makes me happy.’"
- "Being self-conscious is a primal instinct—understanding it helps you move past it."
- "Confidence doesn’t mean being fearless; it means showing up despite the fear."
Andrew’s Aha Moments:
- "Confidence comes from surviving everything life has thrown at you and knowing you’ll figure it out again."
- "Your ego wants to keep you safe, but safety doesn’t always mean growth."
- "Vulnerability isn’t weakness—it’s the path to strength."
- "You’re not your inner critic; you’re the person who decides whether to listen to it."
- "Confidence is built through consistent effort and a willingness to be a beginner."
Glimmers of the Week:
- Andrew: Celebrating his son’s birthday and reflecting on the pride and joy his children bring him as they grow into amazing people.
- Catherine: Watching her son’s confidence shine as he bought and gave a flower to a girl he admires, and enjoying a heartfelt moment with her daughter over crepes.
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