In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Michelle Spexarth, a trauma-informed coach, about the pivotal moment when she realized she needed to stop seeking external validation and focus on her self-worth. Michelle opens up about her journey of self-discovery, influenced by the teachings of Dr. Wayne Dyer and Louise Hay, and shares actionable advice on how to reconnect with and value oneself.
Guest Information:
Michelle Spexarth is a trauma-informed coach specializing in helping individuals recover from narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. She is dedicated to guiding others towards healing and self-discovery, helping them to own their actions and resilience. Michelle runs a free Facebook group called "Soul Survivors," where she conducts weekly classes.
Main Topics Covered:
- Michelle’s background and family life
- The catalyst moment that led to her journey of self-discovery
- The role of external validation in her life and the shift towards internal validation
- The impact of the teachings of Dr. Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay, and others
- Practices and techniques Michelle used to reconnect with herself
- The importance of owning one’s actions and choices
- Specific examples of how Michelle's perspective has changed through this journey
Quote from the Episode:
"Because I was just like this, I have got to find a place where I am not so vulnerable to others, also to where I feel okay within myself, no matter what’s going on outside of me." – Michelle Spexarth
Timestamps:
- 00:00:04
- – Introduction and welcome
- 00:00:28
- – Michelle shares her current location and weather in Kansas
- 00:00:45
- – Michelle's personal background and family details
- 00:03:22
- – Introduction to the topic: Seeking validation
- 00:03:44
- – Michelle’s realization journey about needing internal validation
- 00:05:02
- – The state of Michelle's life during the time she began this transition
- 00:07:00
- – The specific event with homeschool sports that triggered awareness
- 00:12:23
- – How Michelle felt and handled the situation at that time
- 00:13:44
- – Discussion on ways to own one's actions and control one's life
- 00:20:00
- – Tools and resources Michelle used for self-discovery
- 00:23:00
- – Practical exercises Michelle used to learn more about herself
- 00:26:27
- – Changes in perspective and handling situations today
- 00:30:10
- – Reflection if younger version of Michelle could have made this shift
- 00:34:05
- – Rapid fire questions
- 00:36:23
- – Closing remarks and final thank you
How to connect with Michelle Spexarth:
Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/soulsurvivorshealing
Special offer from the show guest:
Course called Heal you, Heal Your Kids that is free when you use this link.
https://www.udemy.com/course/heal-you-heal-your-kids-breaking-the-cycle-of-abuse/?couponCode=7B85A974B5D61C2FE971
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