Susan Bratton, Intimacy Wellness Expert is a champion and advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long.
Best-selling author and publisher of lovemaking techniques and bedroom communication skills including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, The Steamy Sex Ed Video Collection, Hormone Balancing, The Pump Guide, and Thrust In Time as a small selection of her 34 books and program.
You can find The Susan Bratton Show on YouTube at BetterLover.com, her more personal posts @susanbratton on Instagram, and her new sexual vitality supplements, Flow, Boost, Desire, and Drive at The20.store
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00:30 - Introduction
09:55 - A lot of times, for men, there aren't raised to be in their emotional body. They really can't feel a lot of pleasure. They have a specific way that they self-pleasure and that's their one well-worn path. A lot of times when they get into the bedroom, they're in their head strategizing about giving her a great experience. They're overthinking.
14:00 - Some people want to go back and rehash what happened and process it. Other people are better at saying, let's just have a do-over and start again and let that go. One of the things that I do notice is that there is a pretty big number of people, I'm thinking 15 to 20% of people, who have been betrayed or have had their heart hurt. It is very hard for them to open their heart again. I don't hear as commonly of people who have never opened their hearts, except for men who come to me and say, women, reject me. They don't like me. I am just terrible with women. They come in with a chip on their shoulder that they're not likable.
19:20 - I started looking at the Venn diagram, the three circles that intersect of libido, desire, and arousal. So what you're really talking about is body, mind, and spirit. You're really talking about both your physicality as well as your emotional body as well as the knowledge that you bring. Then once you get really good, once you're like, okay, I understand how my genitals work, I understand the ways I can orgasm. I began to become more multi-orgasmic. I've had different kinds of orgasms. My partner and I now have the ability to feel really comfortable talking to each other. We're comfortable asking for what we need is changing. Just as we change and evolve, we acknowledge that every day is a new day and we're constantly maturing.
30:30 - The minute you start to see any diminishment of size, or a reptile rigidity, a vacuum erection device, the one I like is called the Whopper. I've written a book called the pumping guide. I know it's a funny name because it does make your penis bigger as well, which is nice. A lot of guys want to have a little bit more girth and length. I have written a book called the pumping guide, which explains how pumps work, what to do, how to pump for maximum gain.
40:15 - So prostate massage is super healthy and we've lost track of it over the last 100 years or so. But, in