In last week's podcast episode of the podcast, Episode 105 – Communication Etiquette (https://managingacareer.com/105), I talked about how seemingly small, everyday actions can shape how others perceive you at work. While these habits may not directly earn you a promotion, they quietly build your reputation with the very people who influence those decisions. This week, I want to take that conversation further by focusing on something even more subtle but just as powerful: non-verbal communication cues.
Why Non-Verbal Communication Matters
Whether you're in a casual hallway conversation, presenting in a meeting, or connecting over a video call, the way you carry yourself sets the tone for how others receive both you and your ideas. Confident posture, purposeful hand gestures, and aligned facial expressions signal credibility and invite trust. On the other hand, shrinking into your chair, avoiding eye contact, or trying to make yourself small often leads people to unconsciously dismiss not only your presence—but also the value of your message.
Confident non-verbal communication isn't just window dressing—it's the foundation of trust. Behavioral researcher Vanessa Van Edwards underscores how our brains are wired to interpret nonverbal cues before we're even consciously aware of them—it's a silent language louder than words ( https://www.mickmel.com/notes-from-cues-by-vanessa-van-edwards/?utm_source=chatgpt.com, https://singjupost.com/unlocking-the-hidden-power-of-body-language-vanessa-van-edwards-transcript/?utm_source=chatgpt.com). In her work, she breaks down the "Cue Cycle": Decode → Internalize → Encode—illustrating how we interpret signals, let them reshape our mood and behavior, and then respond with our own cues ( https://www.mickmel.com/notes-from-cues-by-vanessa-van-edwards/?utm_source=chatgpt.com). She also highlights powerful patterns showcased by leaders—like open body posture, leaning in, purposeful gaze, and respectful use of space—as the "secret weapons" of nonverbal power ( https://www.mickmel.com/notes-from-cues-by-vanessa-van-edwards/?utm_source=chatgpt.com).
Studies show that when nonverbal signals align with our words, they reinforce our message; when they conflict, they're often the signals people believe ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Albert_Mehrabian?utm_source=chatgpt.com, https://www.scienceofpeople.com/body-language-percentage/?utm_source=chatgpt.com). This is why a confident stance, expressive gestures, and aligned facial cues ground your message—while shrinking into yourself, folding your arms, or avoiding eye contact sends the opposite. Vanessa's work isn't theoretical—it's backed by hundreds of thousands of observations, experiments, and real-world applications via her site Science of...
